Tossing the garter has been a wedding tradition since at least the 16th century. Originally a means of proving that the wedding had been consummated, it has changed in modern times to be a bit of light-hearted naughtiness near the end of the wedding reception.
The groom removes the garter from the bride’s thigh and tosses it to the waiting groomsmen. It is not unusual for the groomsmen to encourage the groom to remove the garter with his teeth. If you don’t mind some cat-calls and rowdy behavior, the garter throw can be fun and entertaining.
But if this does not appeal to you for any reason, there is nothing to stop you from saying no to the toss.
If you decide not to do a garter toss, make sure the groom is agreeable to your decision and lets his groomsmen know ahead of time that there will be no garter toss. This will save you the embarrassment of having the men egging the groom on and making you uncomfortable.
Can you wear a garter and not do a toss? Absolutely. A blue garter is often worn by the bride to fulfill the old saying, “ Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue”. Many brides feel that a lacy garter completes her wedding look, even though it wont be seen by anyone but the groom.
Does it have to be blue? No. In fact, a quick search for wedding garters on line turned up everything from traditional white and blue lace garters to Tweetie Bird and Guns & Roses garters.
Wear them or don’t wear them. Toss them or don’t toss them. It really is up to you.
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