If you are planning on having a flower girl at your wedding there are several things that you should keep in mind as you plan your selection.
Age is an important factor. Most flower girls are between the ages of three and eight. Younger than three can leave you with a confused child, in tears, desperately looking for her mother. With an older girl you might risk upsetting her if she thinks she is being given the role of a child, rather than a young lady. If you don’t know the flower girl candidate well, talk to her parents to see if this is an appropriate role.
An awful lot depends on the personality of the girl involved. A child of any age who is focused and can follow directions will be easier to work with than one who tends to wander off or a girl who can’t stop twirling in a pretty dress.
If you are set on using a very young child, be sure to have a parent or bridesmaid “buddy” close by to hold a hand, give direction, or take the child onto a lap as needed.
Whoever you pick, the choice is ultimately yours and even if the flower girl forgets to strew the rose petals, or walks too fast or too slow, or ends up (loudly) pointing out butterflies to all your guests, she will still be adorable, and no one will really mind.
P.S. Don’t forget the potty-break before she heads down the aisle!